I still remember the moment when I declared Valentine’s Day the cruelest holiday on the calendar. I was in Walmart, shopping for cards for Nate’s class and treats for him and Christian. I passed the display of cards that used to drive me crazy because I could never seem to find one that wasn’t either inappropriate or over-the-top drippy. It hit me that I didn’t have anyone to buy a card for. No one would give me a card either, or flowers, or chocolate. I thought about all of my single friends who’d been dealing with this for years, but even that didn’t help.
I also remember the moment when God turned that salt-in-the-wounds day of hearts around through a friend who stopped by with a box of chocolate, a sweet card, and a hug. Two years later, I spent Valentine’s Day with another friend, who was celebrating her first outing after being declared cancer free. That same year, I helped fill goodie bags for women who felt the same way I did when I dragged through Walmart resenting a holiday that doubled as a painful reminder of what I might never have again. The next year I filled mugs and experienced the joy of handing one to a teary woman. She hugged me and said, “I was dreading Valentine’s Day, but this makes it better.” Her words made my whole struggle over Valentine’s Day worth it.
Valentine’s Day still isn’t my favorite day of the year, but I no longer resent it or find it cruel. Through the experiences above, God taught me that it can be sweet even when we don’t have romance in our lives, because love is about more than that. For me, Valentine’s Day is about appreciating friends and members of my family, and showing kindness to those who need a reminder that they are valuable. I don’t know what special thing I will do this year, but I plan to enjoy it.
Several months ago, my struggle with Valentine’s Day inspired a story for Kathy Ide’s Fiction Lover’s Devotional, 21 Days of Love: Stories the Celebrate Treasured Relationships. The book hit the shelves on January 1 and happens to also include stories by two author friends who walked with me through the difficult process of adjusting to a new life.
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So, what is your story? How has God taught you that love is about more than romance? When has He sent a reminder that you were valuable at the exact moment you needed it? How has He moved you to show love to others?
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